Question 1

What is required to initiate services?

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I am so glad you are here and are interested in working together! To get started you are expected to do a few things...

1. Read through this entire website
2. Complete an intake form (found at the bottom of the main Bodywork page)
3. Request an intake phone call (found in the Booking page)

The intake form does not require approval, it is simply a screening and intake policy. I repeat, the intake form does not require approval!

Once you finish the intake form, you can request an Intake Phone Call. If the form glitches out or doesn't send - I can complete the form for you during an Intake Phone Call.

As of August 1, 2025 Intake Calls are required.

You must acknowledge that you have read through these FAQs and my Consent and Discretion Policies when you request a new booking.

Question 2

How do I prepare/What should I expect for my first session?

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The first session is uniquely designed to introduce you to my style and leave you to decide how it's supportive for you. They are universal for everyone no matter what they are coming in with.

Our time together will always begin with a check-in before you hop on the table. There is a low sitting lounge sofa or a chair you can sit on during this check-in. Depending on what you have sought this work out for, the conversation could be as quick as 5 minutes or as long as 30 minutes. First sessions are always scheduled for 90 minutes to ensure enough time to have that 30 minute check-in if that is what's needed.

I will ask you about no-zones, injuries, allergies to almonds, and have clear boundaries set in place before any physical contact begins each and every time you see me (this isn't just for the first session).

Most first sessions spend about 55-65 minutes on the table. Not all of those minutes are spent on touch, but rather soft interrogation and exploration of interoception of the experience you are having. Everyone receives and plays with the interrogation of interoception differently - I cannot, in any world, know how you will respond to the touch or the soft interrogation of interoception and therefore cannot know exactly how long our time together will be. But you can expect to be in space with me for up to 90 minutes.  If you think you'll need more time than this (many people do), I recommend booking the 2 hour Introduction Session.

(I promise interrogation is not as aggressive as it sounds - it's my way of being deeply curious about how you know what you are feeling. It is the practice of texturizing sensation.)

There isn't much you need to prepare for except possible hygiene and hydration needs. Make sure you have something in your belly and are comfortably satisfied in your physiologicals. Water (and usually snacks) will be available for you.

All natural body functions are welcome in the space of a session. Meaning our bodies may swell, heat up, sweat, leak fluids, shake, breathe, laugh, and cry. There is zero tolerance for any kind of fluid exchange, but I understand that human bodies are over 80% fluids so let's expect some fluids to be present.

Plan on being on time. If you are not on time, send me a text with your expected arrival. I cannot wiggle around extended lateness - if you are more than 15 minutes late, we will probably need to reschedule.

As challenging as it may be, I encourage the honoring of any excitement, nervousness, or whatever else you may be experiencing before your first session.

Question 3

Consent Policy

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As a client of Elle Fox you are asked to review the following consent and discretion agreement. This must be read prior to the initiation of services. If you have any questions or concerns, please bring them up during the Intake Phone Call. Open communication is highly appreciated.

TOUCH CONSENT
Consent is a continuous practice and we prioritize it before, during, and after a session. Both the client and provider share an understanding that consent is a fluid practice that involves ongoing conversations, agreements, and considerations.
Everyone present during a session will give consent to be touched before being touched.

As a client and/or provider of somatic bodywork, sensual education, and as a conscious, breathing human…
I take full responsibility for my body and my actions towards other people.
I have the right to feel safe when others touch me and I can say NO when it feels right to do so. 
I have the right to say YES when it feels right to do so. I will give permission on how I am to be touched.
I have the right to change my YES to a NO and vice versa. I can change my mind. Consent is fluid and can change.
I will ask permission to touch another person and respect the boundaries we have agreed upon prior to initiating contact. I will not touch before asking or without being given clear permission.
I will provide clear boundaries on where and how I desire to be touched. I will communicate and enforce my own boundaries. 
I will be accountable for any harm or distress I may cause or experience. Repair will be prioritized in conflict.

In this space:
Mutual touch does not mean mutual pleasure. 
Sensual does not mean sexual.
The session can and will stop or slow down if either the giver or the receiver slides outside of their window of tolerance or requests to stop or slow down. Read more here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/making-the-whole-beautiful/202205/what-is-the-window-of-tolerance-and-why-is-it-so-important  and here: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/41111427_Autonomic_dysregulation_and_the_Window_of_Tolerance_Model_of_the_effects_of_complex_emotional_trauma 
There is no skin-to-skin contact around soft tissue areas of the body that contain mucous membranes. 
Personal protective materials will be used when necessary and appropriate for care. 
Boundaries will always be discussed prior to the beginning of a touch session, no matter how many times we see each other.

This bodywork practice feels supported by the language and ideas developed through the Wheel of Consent framework. More information about this can be found here: https://www.schoolofconsent.org/blog/wheel-explained

Question 4

Privacy Policy

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As a provider, Elle agrees to the following:
I will collect, but not share, a client’s private information.
I will not discuss session details with anyone without written permission from the client. 
I will not share session notes and will use best practices to keep them private. Session information is never documented on a computer or virtual device except for what you provide in the forms during the intake and booking processes. 
I will not cause harm to your personal reputation or go public with what occurs in our private sessions beyond what is necessary to protect my inherent and bodily rights.
I will not pursue a personal relationship outside of professional boundaries and will not acknowledge clients in public unless they approach me first.

As a client, you agree to the following statements: 
I will not share or post my provider’s private information anywhere on the internet. 
I will not post my provider’s information on any website, including review sites, advertising sites, or any other website without her direct permission in writing.
I will not infringe on my provider’s basic copyright protection (posting pictures without permission, using direct language from provider’s personal social media accounts or advertisements, etc.)
I will not pursue a personal relationship with my provider outside of professional boundaries, but I am welcome to say a friendly “hello” if I see my provider in public. 
If I see my provider listed on a site that does not seem to align with her scope of practice, I will notify my provider that I reported the posting as false or fraudulent to the appropriate administrators or moderators of the website. For those who have done this...you are my angels on Earth and blessings await for you wherever you go. 
I understand that my name, phone number, email address, and/or other information may be requested and used to verify who I am. I agree to provide all information requested for my provider to easily practice the highest safety standards. I understand this is with the highest interest of safety for both of us. 
I understand my rights as a client of Complimentary and Alternative Healthcare under the State of MN Statute.

Question 5

Not really a question but I am super nervous, maybe too nervous...

Accepted Answer

I understand! It makes a lot of sense to be nervous about initiating this work. I appreciate the transparency and I know your nervous system does, too. We are strangers and this is a high-contact, deeply impacting process - your anxiety, fears, and concerns are as welcome as they are appropriate. You are the ultimate decider of what is safe - I will not decide what is safe for you.

But let's talk about the possibility of you changing your mind.

The most popular reason people cancel their New Client or Intake Call sessions with me is because they don't feel ready. I receive this transparency with massive gratitude and have written a blog post with a set of questions that I hope feels supportive now or when/if you happen to change your mind. Sometimes people change their minds about being ready and this is a-OK with me! You always have an out. Always, always, always.

As I mention often, nobody randomly finds me. It is likely you have sought this work out for very good reason. Those reasons, motives, readiness.. are important and yet they can change without losing their importance. You have every right to change your mind about this work. I will not punish you for choosing it's not the right time. In fact, it already shows me that you are listening to your body! This is the whole point of my work! How could I be upset about someone following their body's whispers - or screams, if we are being real - ? ?

If your anxiety or nervousness scoots out of your window of tolerance, there is absolutely no problem with canceling your session. I will also cancel sessions if my anxiety happens to sneak outside of my window of tolerance, too! This happens! The world is actually crumbling and we are actually only human. I think any anxiety that shows up is a fierce, loving protector showing up to the party/trip of life.

You owe me no explanation and I will not be upset with you if you need more time to decide or to settle into the choice of receiving this work.

Respectfully, I ask that folks at least communicate a cancellation rather than floating into the No Call No Show world because that could impact the way I feel ready to meet with you as I consider NCNS situations disrespectful and a waste of my time. Deposits you've made are not refundable but I would be happy to work with you in the future if your readiness changes again. More info about canceling a session is under another section of this FAQ page, which I do expect you to read before booking your first session.

Truthfully, I am astonished by the grace and compassion you've already allowed yourself by seeking this work out. I take my practice very seriously and I honor the time you've already put into this thus far by reading my website and considering it. The last decade of my professional life would mean nothing without people like you who have mustered up the courage to get deep with themselves in self-discovery. I applaud you and am here whenever you decide it's best for you.

There is absolutely no worries on my end that your nervous system is doing nervous system things. We will always have a check-in before you hop on the bodywork table. There will always be an opportunity to leave, to say No, and to stop. That can be now or in the middle of a session - doesn't matter.

Regardless - it has been an absolute pleasure to have been considered someone you would trust with such intimate threads of your humanness. May the best always be yours for your nervous system to decide.

You can read more about my thoughts on readiness on my blog 🌻

Question 6

How do I request a session?

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The Request page! It can be found in the main menu. This is the best 
(read: only) way to book time with me. My booking process is not automatic - meaning I need to manually approve all requests that come through.

Once a slot is requested, it cannot be requested by someone else. You become the holder of that slot for the day - if you need to cancel less than 12 hours notice, I will ask you to pay a $50 slot holding fee.

You will receive automatic emails throughout the request and approval or reschedule process. Those emails include: confirmation of request, pending request, approval/denial, and 24 hour reminder with parking/arrival instructions.

Remember: All new clients must fill out an intake form and request a phone call intake before requesting their first session.

Question 7

How do I reschedule/cancel a session?

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There are a few ways . You are always welcome to reach out by text, email, or the chat feature on this website to let me know that you need to change your appointment. If you are a site member, you can modify it from your member account.

Question 8

What is your cancellation policy?

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I typically ask for at least 24 hour notice if you need to cancel - but I totally understand that this is not always possible.

If for whatever reason it feels best to send what I call a 'slot holding' fee, you are welcome to do so. My Venmo is @foxella. If you pay a slot holding fee and rebook within a few days, I would be happy to use that towards your rescheduled session.

If I need to cancel a session that was already approved and/or confirmed, I will offer a $50 discount on your next session, or an additional 10-15 minutes onto your next, rescheduled session.

Question 9

How do I know if my request is approved?

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You will receive an automatic email when I approve or deny your request.

If I am late to respond, I will likely include an email or text message in attempts to confirm and ensure it will still work for you given the late notice.

Question 10

How do I confirm my session?

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You will receive another automatic email 24 hours prior to your appointment time with your appointment details and instructions for arrival. You are welcome to respond to that email or send me a text the night before/morning of the session.

Expect a response from me when you send me a confirmation at least 2 hours before our start time.

If I do not receive a confirmation notification from you, I will attempt to get one from you anywhere between 2-24 hours before our scheduled time by text or email (sometimes both). If I do not hear from you within a reasonable amount of time (at least 45 minutes before the start of our session), I will likely assume you are not able to make it and offer a reschedule.

Question 11

How do I get in touch with you?

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I am very transparent about being difficult to get in touch with sometimes. I truly do not look at my work phone very often aside from confirming sessions and arrival notifications. Texting is the most unreliable form of communicating with me.

I pay attention to calendar requests the most. So booking is technically the best way to get in touch with me!

If you need to get in touch without requesting a session, use these following features (listed in my priority viewing order):
Chat feature on the website (Best during available hours)
Contact & Feedback form (I get a direct notification)
Email (I get a direct notification, but it is mixed up with a lot of other noise)
Text (Never use this if you don't have something on the calendar)

Question 12

What happens and doesn't happen during a session?

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What might happen:
Full body touching that slowly builds upon soft, relaxing pleasure from the feet to the head
Gentle, soft strokes with provider’s hands, wrists, forearms, elbows, and legs, when appropriate  
Very light touch that moves fascia without rubbing action
Client receives touch on feet, legs, hips, torso, chest, shoulders, neck, and head
Client is invited to experience pleasure and relaxation on a scale, to give a description of their sensual experience, and be curious as they befriend whatever might come to surface during a session - Somatic integration practices are encouraged, but not required
Touch near sensitive areas will be discussed prior to the initiation of touch. Pelvic floor is included at the client and provider's discretion. 
Provider asks questions about how pleasure is showing up in the body to support sensual interoception skills

What does not happen:
Traditional massage therapy that focuses on muscle aches and pains
Sexual gratification or any kind of touch that could be interpreted to be intended to be for sexual gratification 
Nudity of provider
Fluid exchange of any kind
Transactional relationship dynamics beyond the bodywork relationship established during care

Question 13

How do I get into the building?

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My space is inside a secure office building, the Goodridge Offices. You will need to text me when you park so I can promptly meet you at the front door to let you inside. I will likely be ready 5-15 minutes before our start time and will send you a text to say that I am ready.

The back door is not accessible and parking is not allowed in the back lot.

You will receive instructions in an email before your session starts to help you figure it all out! Reach out to me if you do not receive this email - The surrounding area is an autonomous zone with future projects in planning. Arrival instructions will be updates as necessary in your confirmation email.

Question 14

What types of payment do you accept?

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I accept cash, cards, and Venmo (username: foxella)

Cards will include a small processing fee.

I am unable to accept insurance but some people have been successful with HSA reimbursements. Paper receipts can be provided when requested.

Question 15

Where do I park?

Accepted Answer

Street parking is available on E 38th St. and Columbus Ave. 
Do not park in the back lot.

Question 16

What is accessibility like at your space?

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Not great. My space is located on the second floor with 9 steps to climb. I am near a bathroom with a sink and toilet, but have no access to a shower or a bed.

If you are unable to visit my space, please request a Travel to You session and include that accessibility is your reason for requesting an outcall appointment.

The building is a scent-free zone (although there have been complaints).

Question 17

Are there showers at your space?

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No. I use warm towels to wipe the oil off of you, but you will not have access to a full bathroom.

Question 18

You are not allowed to ask me about the safety of the surrounding area of George Floyd Square.

Accepted Answer

It is no safer or more dangerous than anywhere else in south Minneapolis.

Question 19

Are you a licensed massage therapist?

Accepted Answer

Nope. I am not a graduate of any bodywork or massage schools and I am not interested in obtaining any certificates or institutional acknowledgement of my talents.

I am an independently studied intimacy and touch professional. I have loads of hours of study in both personal and collective spaces under my belt and have never worked for anyone in this practice except for myself and do not work with anyone else.

I have thousands of hours of experience across a decade of practicing bodywork alongside erotic and sexuality education and pleasure activation exploration with a background in community organizing, social justice, and advocating for sexual autonomy rights.

The state of Minnesota does not have any requirements to practice bodywork or other services available with me. I am legally required to make this statement with my credentials:

"THE STATE OF MINNESOTA HAS NOT ADOPTED ANY EDUCATIONAL AND TRAINING STANDARDS FOR UNLICENSED COMPLEMENTARY AND ALTERNATIVE HEALTH CARE PRACTITIONERS. THIS STATEMENT OF CREDENTIALS IS FOR INFORMATION PURPOSES ONLY."

The space in which I practice is a licensed bodywork establishment with the City of Minneapolis. This license does not qualify individual people but requires annual background checks, current tax payments, and a fee from the owner with specific safety regulations regarding the space.

Question 20

What are the regulations that oversee this work?

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I operate under regulations set by The MN Department of Unlicensed Complimentary and Alternative Healthcare Practices and the City of Minneapolis ordinances for massage establishment.

I am required to offer you the state's client bill of rights.

There are regulations on prohibited conduct that lays out guidelines for true, safe, and ethical practices.

The agency for sex therapists and sexuality educators is AASECT; nearly all of my classes on sex and sexuality are approved courses taught by AASECT approved teachers, but not all of them. Much of my knowledge comes from peers, community gatherings, and casual workshops.

I have taken a variety of deep dives into a spectrum of erotic teachings from lots of sources within and outside the realm of accredited institutional knowledge.

Although I am a fierce advocate for the decriminalization of sex work and sex work adjacent professions, please refrain from using words that imply illegal activity when you communicate with me - these will be ignored and/or blocked. This is for the safety of both of us.

Question 21

Do you identify with any particular spiritual path?

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I could consider myself perhaps as a Catholic Witch with an extra dose of mystic and gnostic contemplation. The best way to describe my faith is through the lenses of liberation, justice, and the wild. Spirituality and faith have always fascinated me, no matter the path. Ritual, worship, and reverence are important and valued pieces of my personal faith.

I hold great respect for any way a person may find love from their source.

Seasons and elements speak to me. Animals and plants speak to me. Math and physics speak to me. Scripture and poetry speak to me. It's all divine. Every last friggin' bit of everything. God finds me with ease in the many places where she is.

Catholic Disclaimer: I worship in many ways, including practicing Eucharist and contemplating the mysteries of Jesus at a local, progressive Catholic church in Minneapolis. I do not identify with or share alignment with Vatican rules or even the entire catechism, and definitely not with the views of gender, sex, or the body. I have staunch attitudes that are in direct opposition of the Church and I follow the works of Liberation and Social Justice Theology that leans towards eco-feminist perspectives of spiritual sovereignty.

Question 22

What are your views on tantra?

Accepted Answer

I appreciate and respect tantra but am in no way shape or form initiated into or taught by a lineage of tantrikas. Although tantra is greatly respected in the space of my work, I am not always interested in the way the west has appropriated it into the new age spirituality industry under imperial capitalism.

I do not believe feminine and masculine energies are gendered and I will speak of them using different words in my space. Everyone has feminine and masculine energies - both, at the same time, all the time.

I am deeply connected to and resonate with tantric practice principles, but I will not participate in the appropriation of it by upholding the teachings to a single lens of sexual practices as so many in the west understand them today.

I will not engage in a mutually energetic sexual exchange with you or pretend that I have a trick up my sleeve that will spontaneously awaken your sexual aptitudes - although I do believe a sense of "awakening" is possible in this space because I have witnessed it. Serpent medicine, Kundalini, chi, Reiki, and chakras are all within my vocabulary and capacity of discussion - but these are not foci of my work or practice. My focus is supporting your relationship with your body, it's that simple.

Tantra is way more than sex. And it's not a code word for anything conventionally sexual. More so, there are no gurus here and I am not any kind of representation of a feminine goddess.

I do request that you are at least aware of how the west has continued to appropriate ancient and new cultures for their own advantageous gain without giving credit, nor acknowledging the harm brought on people who gave us the knowledge in the first place. Just the same as religious harm, if you have felt harmed by new age spirituality, you are not alone and I am here to support you tend to whatever spiritual wounds you carry with you.

While we are at it....This work will always recognize the land we are on as stolen from indigenous peoples and deplore the labor that was (and still is) exploited from BIPOC during the emergence of our country, state, and city.

Question 23

Where can I learn more?

Accepted Answer

I have a 29 page zine that goes into detail about what Somatic Intimacy is. You can purchase it to learn more about my approach. If you buy this within a week of requesting an intake phone call, it can be used as the deposit/payment for the initiation of services.

Nitty Gritty Details (Required Reading)