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clay + pleasure




CLAY

  • shapable; i can form it

  • it can change

  • keep its structure

  • go through many forms

  • not wet, not dry

  • comes from the earth, like me


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plasticity is like clay in a hand

moving between fingers

it has no choice but to be shaped

by the pressure of its existence in the hand


[think of the big + small shifts clay can take: 1) chunk-wise: it can be a cube, a sphere, a blob, etc. 2) surface-wise: it can receive tiny lines from the fingerprints and palms. there is a spectrum of impact the clay experiences.]


its unlike clay in a lot of ways, of course.

but maybe the clay has something to teach us about how we have been shaped in our past.

and maybe it could offer us a sliver of hope in the way we *will* be shaped in our future.


i've been reading a lot about neuroscience lately.

and if there's one thing for certain in this field that all neuroscientists are on board with...it's plasticity.


this explains an evolutionary mechanism of our brain and nervous system.

the word plastic (often bringing thoughts of milk jugs, butt plugs, or cosmetic surgery) is meant to describe an ever-changing, adaptive process of the brain.


the brain is in a constant (and i mean *constant*) remolding process.

you are already basically a different person than you were when you woke up this morning. that's because since you've woken up, you've been exposed to an environment that your internal ecosystem needs to adjust to. in that adjustment, your brain made a shit load of new neuron connections. enough to literally change what it looks like under a microscope. i mean, woah.


plasticity is exactly how the brain is designed to operate. it is meant to be adaptive, changing and responding to its environment and all the stimuli that comes along with it.


a beautiful (and often frustrating) thing about all this is another weird agreed-upon notion of this system: it's always in ally-ship with self. basically meaning that the body is never gonna do something that isn't in the best interest for itself.


it just doesn't work any other way - it only knows how to adapt to exist as comfortably as possible in the environment of which it exists.


this tidbit of knowledge has helped me tremendously in my own therapy work. i have succumbed to the belief (in my own healing adventures) that this is exactly why panic attacks are my friend, not my enemy. they show up to let me know i am NOT comfortable and by golly i better fucking do something about it or shit ain't gonna feel good anymore. all the panic attack is saying is 'hey, something needs attention' and if i actually let myself listen to what needs attention, my body *will* [eventually] regulate itself in its giving attention of what it needs. the body is always in a dire attempt to be as cozy as possible (that looks wildly diff for each person) and therefore, always on team SELF.


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if we know that the brain has plasticity

that it adapts to its surroundings

couldn't we take advantage of that process

and give the brain opportunities to shape itself around pleasure?


couldn't we benefit from such an intentional hijacking of the brain's operational system? based on the science, i don't see an argument for why it wouldn't work. if we know the brain is shaped by its experiences, then why wouldn't an intentional opportunity exposed to pleasure reshape our somatosensory memory in a more pleasurable fashion? i meeeeaaan, that's literally what the science says will happen.


**i duuunnnnooo y'all, but i think we are ONTO SOMETHING here**


this is exciting because i believe a Somatic Security OR Intimacy session with me is 1000% an opportunity for the brain to reshape itself around pleasure.


{nerd pause: i read about this stuff and get giddy on how it applies to my work - how regular ass every day people like you and me can just *figure it out* - this is so cool}


i know without a doubt in my cells

that i am good at what i do.

i am good at touching people.

(such a weird thing to say)

but it's because of the context of which my services are delivered that makes it so good.

it is with my full acceptance and full understanding that clients come to the table already being shaped by a [likely] extremely cruel world.

a world that i know has also kept me silent more than i would like to admit (welp).


..but maybe we are silent because the world has shaped us in ways that being silent is safest

..maybe it has taught us that staying closed off and isolated is what is best for everyone involved

..maybe it has done a good job at convincing us that our dreamscapes are pipe dreams